I’m taking a small break from my “what is greatness” series to talk about being a doormat in your own life. Ever felt like you just let your life take control of everything that you are? Your dreams, your wants, your needs and your happiness. Let yourself believe that you don’t deserve good things because you feel unworthy. I call this being a doormat to your own life and letting your problems control your joy. Hear me out, we all go through rough patches in our lives, but that can’t be everything about our lives. We have to live too.
I enjoy watching cheesy Hallmark movies. The storyline is always the same. Some hotshot goes back to their small hometown, and they have an epiphany about big city life not being all that it’s cracked up to be. They then decide to move back home and live a simpler life. Maybe that’s how life is supposed to be, simple—living in a great community and doing simple things. I’ve been thinking a lot about the simple life and living in a small quaint town. I want that for my family and me. What is this chase that we’re supposed to be constantly on? The following new shiny thing? The materialism and continually wanting more. It’s exhausting. We are programmed, almost drugged, to be on the hunt for the next best thing.
A friend and I once talked about being a slave to the paycheque. We were so desperate not to be that but little did we know we were already deep in the plantation. By the time we looked up, we had all kinds of responsibilities, which unfortunately are still haunting me today. So the question is, how do you free yourself? Is freedom just an illusion? One of my favourite movie lines is ” I live my life a quarter-mile at a time, and for those ten seconds, I’m free” This is from the movie Fast Five with Vin Diesel and Paul Walker. That has always stuck with me. We can never indeed be free if we keep focusing on tomorrow. That causes tremendous amounts of stress, and you don’t even enjoy the now. Retirement planning is pointless if, by the time you retire, you’re exhausted and sick. You end up spending most of your time going to doctors to undo the damage you’ve done to your body all these years.
I refuse to be a doormat. I’m taking control of my life and making deliberate decisions to bring me joy and peace. I’m here on earth to have a good time, not to follow some rule book to life.